Despite being the overachiever at school, I was continually haunted by thinking my childhood was normal and that there was something wrong with me – so my whole world became about proving that there wasn’t. What I didn’t realize was that my childhood circumstances conditioned me into becoming a perfectionist, an overachiever, believing if I was good enough I would be loved. This impacted every aspect of my life – creating anxiety, stress and overwhelm – where there didn’t need to be any

Not realizing that the perception of all who knew me was how “together” I was, and how great my life was, it was covering up a lot of pain and suffering, as deep down, I was running limiting beliefs of being worthless. This impelled me to work harder and achieve more than anyone, but never being able to remove the feeling of, I’m not good enough, and no one would ever love me.

for decades out of never believing I deserved better, having no say or control in the way my husband ruled the home and business, and always fearful to leave or stand up to him, from being in constant fear and danger from him being a champion fighter and an aggressive alcoholic. Sadly this was very reminiscent of the childhood I had and how I had also been treated by my mother, with daily beatings, so I knew no better.

I finally got to understand both the positive and negative effects of our childhood, the beliefs we formulate, the recognizable patterns and how it is not something we just transcend by default once we reach adulthood. Limiting beliefs need to be identified, taken apart, dissected and then put back together, in a  healthy way. Our conscious mind cannot rationalize what is really behind our belief systems, as many are buried in our subconscious blind spots, and need a way of being able to have a “light shone on them” so they can be integrated and no longer what is sabotaging our success. 

the difference between the conscious and subconscious mind, healing, and personal improvement. Having transcended all that was holding me back, today I work with people to help them heal, grow, and live happier and more fulfilled lives.